To share or not to share?

I subscribe to several infertility Facebook pages including RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association, Attain Fertility, and Infertility Sucks.

This week, one of them shared this piece from a blogger at XO Jane about how society has made it taboo to discuss pregnancy during the first trimester and why that should change. I’m not going to recap the post because I think it’s worth the read no matter where you or a loved one are in the journey to parenthood. The author’s bottom line, however, is that deciding when to talk about pregnancy should be YOUR choice not dictated by societal norms.

This is something I’ve thought about a lot over the years, but even more so since we first met with Dr. GL.

When would I feel comfortable talking about a pregnancy?

Part of me says, “Keep it close to your heart for as long as possible! Cherish it!” But, I honestly can’t see myself keeping it a secret until the end of the first trimester. No matter what. First of all, I’m already sharing information about my menstrual cycles, cervical mucus, and how crazy the drugs make me. I think it would be a disservice to those who have followed, commented (here and on Facebook), sent private messages and cheered us on along the way. Also, it would go against the very foundation on which I began this blog – to openly discuss all aspects of our TTC journey, to show others they don’t have to hide their struggles because they aren’t alone.

Besides, I SUCK at keeping secrets. 😛

For me, it’s that simple.

I know that’s not the case for everyone.

I want to hear from you. When will (or did) you tell everyone? Why did you decide on that particular time? Would you do it differently now?

Hit the comments to share your story!

 

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